The dictionary definition of a Rogue is a dishonest, knavish person; a scoundrel or rascal. An unprincipled, deceitful, and unreliable person - a person who is playfully mischievous - a scamp.
I'm sure there are a great many women out there in the dating scene would agree with that definition, especially those who are attracted to such men with all its consequences.
Are they really the rogue you think they are, or is it because you have attracted a certain type of male that presents this front and part of you is excited by the challenge he presents. "Catch me if you can".
You have started a relationships with this guy and your close friends and family say. "Beware, he is no good", "He will hurt you" He's a rogue".
So before you even get this relationship off the ground, the guy you are attracted to has been stereotyped by social mores which is even more powerful because it's coming from your immediate field of influence. When in actual fact, although he may present himself as a charming rogue, in many cases it is nothing more than a front.
He can be a delightful rogue, breaking women's hearts everywhere he goes, to love them and drop them as he tires of them. Or he's an unprincipled, deceitful and thoroughly unreliable person.
All men at a deeper level want a partner to whom they can totally give their whole self to and the same goes for women as well. I believe we will love and honor someone who respects us for who we are and gives us the freedom to be ourselves. Sometimes being stereotyped into a category can raise some challenges and sometimes alarm bells.
So if you find yourself being attracted to the rogue type, check out why before you start dating. If it's because you want save or change such a man, think very carefully as to your motives. If it's because he reminds you of your father who exhibits some of the rogue characteristics, ask yourself is this really the sort of person you want in your life. As I mentioned before, taking on the rogue requires a certain temperament that can bring out the best in him.
This is a fascinating subject and I'm sure we could go on talking a lot more about it from different angles. What I want to say in conclusion is that classifying anyone into a stereo-type can be quite destructive especially if you are totally dependent upon external influences for direction. I believe we often fall into relationships because we are being driven too much by our emotions.
In the end it's all about trusting and listening to your gut and your head as to whether a relationship is right for you.
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