Do you find yourself becoming quiet and shy when you meet a new man? Do you wonder why you have so much trouble being confident around men? Have you asked yourself how those other women can carry on a conversation and appear so sure of themselves, when talking to men? The good news is that being confident around men may not be as difficult as you might think. In fact, once you learn the secrets, you'll be amazed at how easy it actually is.
Confidence comes from within. So how can you build up your confidence?
Focus On What You're Good At
One important way is to focus on what you're good at, and on those times when you feel like you're doing everything right. It doesn't really matter what this is or how small you think it is. By focusing on the good, you change the way you look at everything and become a more positive person. You become happier, and happy people project a different image than those who are depressed or unhappy.
And this will show up in the way you present yourself to others. Think about it. If you're feeling down, you carry yourself differently than if you're feeling up. When you feel good you walk taller, your head is up and your eyes are looking around. When you're feeling down, it shows in the way you look down and your whole body follows suit.
Act As If You Were Extremely Confident
But until you truly become more confident, act as if. That's right, pretend that you are confident. Make eye contact with whoever you are talking to. Right away this makes you appear sure of yourself. Smile a lot. Quiet, shy people don't tend to smile a lot because they are worrying about what everyone thinks of them.
It may feel strange at first, but it is all part of what being confident around men is all about, and in the long run, it can only help you to truly build up your confidence.
Accept The Occasional Rejection
Another important thing to realize and accept is that it's okay to be rejected. Even the most popular woman will get rejected by a man at times. It's a part of life and it happens because we're all different. It is no reflection on you or your personality if things don't happen with a man.
Don't allow being turned down to bother you and make you feel all insecure and unlovable. Have confidence that you just weren't right for each other and go on from there.
It's kind of like ice cream. You have your favorite flavors but there are probably some that you can't stand. You're not going to stop eating ice cream just because some flavors don't suit you, are you? Well don't let rejection destroy your self-confidence either. Instead turn the tables and tell yourself that he wasn't right for you anyway.
Now that you understand the ins and outs of being confident around men, why not start practicing? Who knows, Mr. Right might be just around the corner!
Want to know more about confidence, the single most attractive quality in the dating game? Then I'd love to help you!
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Kimberly White is a dating and relationship expert. Her passion is to write informative articles for women who want to improve their love lives. Visit her site for more information.
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