Alright, let's switch gears again and talk about the safety factor of online dating. It's true that online dating can be dangerous, but there are certain sites that combat this type of thing.
There are online dating websites that offer background checks. If you check these out thoroughly you will find that there are those that have actual private investigators that do the background checks, this as with many of the "no-brainers" in this series is much better than someone who takes your money just to do a quick search on the web.
That being said, there are other things that should be considered in the safety of online dating.
One is that you should really take a little time to learn a bit about this person. Not just what they say, but how they say it. One way to easily do this is with Skype. There are certain sites that offer Skype in their website as one of your benefits, this is important because until you get to know this person you DO NOT want them to have any of your personal information.
I know that there are parts of this that you may consider paranoia but it really is just common sense and the fact that it is better to be safe than sorry.
After a bit of time to get to know this person, when the time comes to go on a date, the first thing you should do is to make sure that the date is in a public place. This will be much safer for you for many reasons. While on the date there are a few things you need to do to keep safe.
1.) If you have a drink and have to leave it for any reason, when you get back, order another or just leave that one. I know this sounds crazy, but there are a lot of times when people run into trouble because someone "spiked their drink".
Try not to leave your food unattended if you are at a restaurant on your date.Just a simple precaution.
I know at first you might think this is crazy or a bit much, but why take unneeded chances? This is not something that a person has to do at all times, throughout their life, but until you get to know the person well, you need to be careful. If the person thinks anything of you, they will understand.
2.) Plan your date in a public place.
This one is very important and cannot be overstated. You will be naturally much safer with people around. I am not saying that something bad will happen, just saying that until you are sure that the person you are dating is a good person it is best to be around others. In this case there really is "safety in numbers".
3.) When you finally decide to go out on a date, let someone know you are going on the date and let them know when and if possible where you are going.
In this case, for safeties sake, you should not go on a "secret date". Until you are sure, a date that no one knows about could be very dangerous. The person you are out on a date with would be less likely to be dangerous knowing that people know you are on a date with them and where you are supposed to be meeting them.
I intentionally said meeting them because you need to be in your own car. The old saying never get into a strangers car still holds true for you at least until you are sure beyond the shadow of a doubt.
There is still a lot to cover and we will proceed with this in the next article.
Until part two...
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