When a woman you are interested in seems to be losing interest in you - it's not the best feeling in the world. It can make you feel angry, frustrated, and a little lost as to what to do about it. Do you just let her go? Do you try every trick in the book to get her attention? And, if you pick the latter, why does it feel like you are playing a game of catch up? Why can't you be in the driver's seat when it comes to attracting the woman that you want? The first step to doing this is to figure out why she could be potentially losing interest in you. After we have discovered the cause, then the solution becomes quite simple. So, let's get started!
What does a woman losing interest look like? I want to make this really simple for you. So here are two distinct things that a woman will engage in when she is losing interest.
1) She starts flaking on you.
For example: she used to pick up the phone most of the time when you called and now she only does so periodically; she doesn't return your phone calls; or she makes it harder to organize future dates with her. Now, she may not engage in all these behaviors at once or she may be more subtle about it - but you want to pay attention to the overall pattern that she is engaging in.
2) She starts backtracking or stalling.
This essentially means that whatever progress you have made in moving a relationship forward with this woman - has now come to a standstill. Backtracking can also occur. For example, say you were on a kissing basis with her and now she only gives you hugs. Another example is that you were on a sleeping basis with her and now she will only give you kisses.
So this is the kind of behavior that women will typically engage in when they are losing interest. Now, what are the reasons why she is losing interest and what can you do about it?
Reason 1: She doesn't feel attraction for you.
Yes, I'm sure you have heard of this one before. When I talk about attraction, I talk about it on many different levels. A woman can experience mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical/sexual attraction with a man. More often than not, you are going to need to hit at least 2 of these attraction triggers. The first being physical/sexual attraction, meaning she likes physically being in contact with you, enough for her to want to sleep with you. And, the second can be mental, emotional, or spiritual. This means that you make some sort of emotional connection with her so she feels like she can relate to you and that you have some kind of unique understanding of each other. A mental connection can include having topics of conversation and intellectual stimulation you can both enjoy. While a spiritual connection can entail things from connecting on philosophies, religion, or even common values you both share.
What to do about it: If a woman doesn't feel this combination of attraction for you, it can be very hard for her to continue seeing you. The only way to get out of this situation is to flip the switch and turn that attraction on. First, you must identify which attraction point she does not feel. Physical attraction will usually be an issue for her if you have experienced resistance in getting physically close to her. And, emotional attraction may be an issue if you have found her to be quite closed about her feelings and thoughts. Once you have identified which one of the attraction triggers it is - then you want to assume the leadership position in cultivating this particular type of attraction.
For building physical attraction, get some of the basics right (this will make it easier for her to feel that attraction for you). So, first make sure that you have a good dress sense and are engaging in confident body language. To build physical attraction you want to initiate "moving forward physically" while making it seem like it's her idea. A classic David Deangelo technique is grabbing a woman's hand while crossing the road and just briefly afterwards letting go of it and saying something like, "We just met and you want to hold hands already?" More than likely doing this will make a woman feel comfortable while holding your hand, make her laugh, and set the tone for future physical advances that are fun and playful. If it's emotional and mental attraction that is lacking, then make sure to focus on things that you have a common viewpoint about. Also take the initiative of showing her something that is important to you so you can lead the way for to be more open and receptive about her own emotions.
Reason 2: You have freaked her out or pissed her off.
I'm sure that whatever you did, you didn't mean to do. It's even okay if you did intend to do it. But if you are still really interested in this woman, then it's time to patch things up and keep the ball rolling. Maybe you were moving too fast or too slow. Maybe you said something she didn't like. Maybe she is experiencing new feelings for you and is afraid of getting hurt. Maybe she saw something that she took out of context.
What to do about it: The first and most important thing when this happens is to figure out what she is upset or freaked out about. Let her know that you have noticed a change in her behavior and you want to get to the bottom of it. After a bit of persistence, more than often you will get a response from this woman and she will open up to you about what this is. Patience and persistence is usually the key here and do your best to not take it personally. When a woman experiences a strong feeling or emotion it can sweep over her whole body and cloud her entire perception of you. During this time it will be hard to reason with her which means it's best to come back another time. The key here is communication and to let her know that you are a safe place she can come to. If after communication you realize that she dislikes something that is a very big part of your personality and who you are - you can make the decision of whether you also would like this woman in your life.
Sometimes it can feel like you are completely out of control when a woman appears to be losing interest in you. Hopefully, after implementing what you have learned in this article you can put that power and control back into your hands.
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Jennifer Nielsen aka Hot Alpha Female is a dating and attraction coach who helps men just like yourself learn the truth about what goes on in a woman's head and how you can better relate and date the women you truly want.
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