I had a friend named Michelle who was dating a guy named Ross. Michelle was drop dead gorgeous and had an uncanny resemblance to Julia Roberts, knock-out figure and all. She was a model on the cover of a regional fashion magazine and a working model in South Florida when she started dating Ross. Ross was a great looking, macho stock broker. Whenever these two showed up at parties the room radiated from their hot looks. But as Michelle's friend and confident, I knew what was really going on with these two.
Michelle was vivacious and Ross was vacant and reserved. Vacant and reserved was OK with Michelle, but what wasn't OK was that Ross came alive when in the presence of his dog, Max, an Akita. Ross would only spend the day at the beach with Michelle if it was the doggy beach and Max could join them. At first Michelle was fine with that, but after the third visit the smell of heavy dog fur, laden with seawater in a hot car during the ride home, became intolerable. Ross seemed immune to the stink. What really bothered Michele was that Ross requested that she not use perfumed products in his presence because they gave him headaches.
Ross was stingy with affection towards Michelle, but showered Max with hugs and kisses. Michelle reported that on one instance when Max was licking Ross's mouth that Ross may have reciprocated. She swore to me that this was true, although she did possess a snarky sense of humor.
After a few months of dating Michelle realized that something was wrong with Ross and broke up with him. He was devastated. The reason she gave him for the break up was that she was having just too much fun,... and she left him with that to think about. However, I don't think that Ross would ever figure that one out, in fact I think it may have made his relationship problems worse.
Despite Ross's macho veneer, he was really a sensitive little boy on the inside. Typically, hyper-sensitive people occupy their thoughts with how people treat them and not how they treat other people. Ross developed a coping mechanism by loving a creature that could never hurt him and that can give unconditional love in return. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
For online daters I believe a warning sign is the statement, "must love dogs/cats". It suggests that it's a package deal.
My friend Michelle had the unfortunate experience of getting involved with a man who was only capable of loving his dog. Read on and don't forget to visit my blog, http://www.trixiemalone.com/
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